Try again.

Whenever something doesn’t work out the way you wanted it to, try again.

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Sometimes, when things don’t work out the way we want them to, we tend to pull back and think it is not supposed to be, that it just might not be for us. Also, there might be people around us, telling us things like, “I told you so”, or “Oh, I heard this before…”. These voices are not helpful either. In fact, they can bring us down even more, add more doubts. But they should not. Usually sentences like these come from people who are close to us. They might not even mean to hurt us. Some people are just not being sensitive enough to understand how their words could affect us in those moments. They are trying to be protective or trying to convince us to be cautious, because they care. They might want to protect us from making mistakes, or getting upset again. But how do the people around us want to determine what our mistakes were? Was it even a mistake in the first place? Do WE think it was a mistake, or do they think it was? Everything we encounter, every situation, every person we meet – teaches us a lesson. We need those experiences to know what we want, or don’t want. We need them to learn how we want to handle similar situations in the future, so that we know what we can do differently next time. If people use phrases like the ones mentioned above, we should remind them of the fact that we are making our own choices. That we appreciate the way they care, but also remind them to trust us, that we have learned from the past and are trying to move in different ways now.

Then we need to remind ourselves again - whenever we fall, there should be a certain time to get up and try again. We don’t have to try the same thing, or approach it in the same way as we did before, but reflect on what went wrong and try differently than before. We all make mistakes, we all experience failure and we will all face situations that don’t work out the way we planned. But this does not mean that we don’t deserve certain things. We do. We just need to be brave enough to open up and try again.

 

Sometimes the hardest part isn’t getting up, but the process of opening up to certain ideas again. The jump into the unknown. The overcoming of the “what if”.

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 We shouldn’t let these “what if” thoughts stop us from trying, because –

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What if we try again and the result will actually be amazing?